An Introvert's Guide to Wedding Planning
An Introvert's Guide
to Wedding Planning
Introverts, this one is for you.
From one introvert to another, I get it. Weddings can be a lot of a lot. But when you plan your day to suit your introversion, you create the space for slow & intentional moments that won’t overwhelm you.
Who said you can’t hide away on your wedding day? Because you certainly CAN.
I’ll say it again & again: the best part of planning your wedding is catering it to YOU. I’m committed to steering my couples away from obligations to create a day that is truly genuine.
Need some alone time together? Want a private first dance? Don’t want people watching your every move? Need a moment to recharge? Plan it that way!
Your wedding day is meant to be exhilarating, not exhausting. Your internal compass will play a strong role in creating your dream day.
If something feels stressful, meaningless, or gives you the ick—it’s probably a sign to replace it with something more personal.
Make your experience all that you want & nothing of that you don’t.
1. Make It Micro
Keep it intimate & intentional with less than 50 guests. This allows the time & space for personal interactions with your guests & for yourselves.
Not only does this make your day more mindful, but it lessens the obligations & traditions that often come with planning a larger wedding. You can skip over the fluff, add a little spice, & plan for intimate moments with your loved ones.
2. Have a First Look
Sharing a first look before your ceremony offers intimacy for this moment & eases your nerves. You can also share your vows in private & have a more simple vow recital in front of your guests.
Also within this time is the opportunity to kick your feet up for a second, take a shot or smoke a j, meditate together, & take a breather from photos. Downtime is rare on your wedding day, so any moment to be alone will be sacred.
3. Private Timeout
To soak in the "we did it!" feeling, plan for cocktails & appetizers for just the two of you during cocktail hour. This brief one on one time will feel freshing after having all eyes on you.
Tips:
Extend your cocktail hour to 90 minutes to allow you more time.
Ask your caterer/coordinator to prepare some personal snacks.
After formal photos (family, etc.) tuck yourselves away.
Use this time to rest, ground yourselves, makeout ;)
You can rejoin cocktail hour or hold off until your grand entrance.
4. Skip Formalities
If having your guests watching your every move feels overwhelming, choose to swap traditional formalities for private moments. Catering to your introversion will lessen your nerves & provide more true-to-you memories.
Examples:
Instead of a sweethearts table, opt for a larger dinner table with others.
Plan your first dance as an open dance floor with guests.
Or trade for a private dance nearby or have a late night dance when guests have left.
Have a private cake cutting moment.
5. Elope Instead
If you're feeling the intuitive pull to skip a wedding all together & share the day between the two of you—don't ignore that feeling! Run with it & follow your hearts' desire to plan your dream day.
Tips:
Always plan your day with YOU in mind. Don't feel obligated to have a wedding for the sake of others.
You can still invite loved ones to celebrate your elopement. Ex- parents, siblings, besties, etc.
Elope & have a party later! Take an intimate approach for your nuptials & host a reception on a later date.
Your reception can be anything: brunch, beach day, pizza party, etc.
